By: Skylar Mabe
Trenton McCann, an 8-year-old, at Colfax elementary school weighs over 120 pounds, but his shape was the last thing I noticed when he and his mother met me at Barnes & Noble. He was shy but his bright brown eyes told me a story as he grinned and wiped melted chocolate from his cheeks.
Part I:
The Struggle
Prior to giving birth to Trenton , Lori McCann had two miscarriages, Noah and Michaela. Trenton was born nine weeks early and had growth hormones injected directly after birth to mature his lungs and insure his survival.
The hormones used at birth have carried over to affect his height and weight today. The average 8-year-old weighs 55-60 pounds; Trenton weighs twice that.
“The majority of his bullying is because of his weight, being a grade behind and [being] taller and bigger than his classmates…but you’ll see with him that he’ll get really really chunky and then he’ll get tall. So he proportions himself out.” said Lori.
One of Trenton ’s more memorable altercations with a bully began during a routine bathroom break, a place that should be out of harm's way. Trenton was standing in line with his friends, when the bully stood in front of the bathroom door, making it impossible for Trenton to enter. The bully told Trenton the only way he could go to the bathroom was by squeezing through the tight space the bully provided.
“I tried to make it in,” said Trenton . “[The bully] said, ‘you can’t do it because you’re way too big’.”
To Lori, these words seemed all too familiar. When Lori was a child, her grandmother offered her $10 for every pound she lost.
“People are going to say things, yes they’re going to be cruel but you have to grow up with a thick skin and just let it roll off your back…I try to tell [Trenton] to ignore it and walk away, but if someone throws the first punch, retaliate.” said Lori.
Part II:
What the world thinks of Bullies
and those who’ve been Bullied
and those who’ve been Bullied
According to Liz Lucas, Counselor at Colfax Elementary, the definition of bullying has become too broad. To her, Bullying is being repeatedly threatened in some way, be it physically, mentally or emotionally.
Most professionals agree that bullying is learned behavior, meaning children are taught to be bullies before they bully another child.
“The children I’ve worked with have all witnessed some kind of bullying at home or in a place they visit everyday.” said Lucas.
Mary Taylor, Director of Children’s ministries at Hillsdale United Methodist, believes there are three ways a child can go once they’ve been bullied- They become a bully themselves; they become a victim of bullying because they are too afraid to stand up for themselves; or they learn from the experience and treat others with kindness, the kindness they weren’t given.
Part III:
How Trenton is giving the Bully
a little less to poke fun at
When Trenton was 4-years-old his father became very sick and their family lost their house. Lori didn’t have the money to fund any extracurricular activities for Trenton .
“I told my husband I don’t care what we do... [Trenton ] is going to play something. We exhausted all avenues just for him to get that opportunity to be able to play [a sport].” said Lori,
This year was Trenton ’s first year taking part in a sport. He plays basketball and baseball and will begin football soon.
“It’s really built his confidence up,” said Lori.
“It’s easier because I can…um throw the ball higher. And in baseball you can’t dribble it because it has this rock in it and it’s a little bit bouncy but the basketball has air in it and it’s a lot bouncy,” said Trenton.
“He has a very tender heart,” said Lori.